Remember the first few weeks in your relationship when all you wanted to do was get your hands on each other and get to know every aspect of each other’s lives? Don’t just sigh and long for the days past when you can actually cultivate the same level of intimacy or even deeper.
It will require a bit of hard work at first, but you can turn intimacy into a habit. Yes, even if you’re with an introvert who prefers me-time all the time, and even if you’ve been together for decades. A bit of playful attitude and some actual games can put intimacy back in your relationship.
Relationship games that build intimacy outside the bedroom
As they say, intimacy happens hours before you enter the bedroom. It’s the playfulness, the true connection of two souls, and the nurturing of each others’ love tanks. Here are some wholesome games you can play with your partner so your relationship will become more intimate and fun.
#1 Twenty questions. This game is classic for a reason, it’s so effective in building intimacy. The game is pretty simple. You and your partner alternately ask each other questions and make sure you both vow to be honest with your answers. Absolutely simple. What makes this useful is that couples can ask each other questions in a playful, non-accusing manner.
Sample questions: “Did you ever fake an orgasm?”, “What’s one secret you haven’t told me?”, “What’s your greatest worry?” Just make sure that you play this with a light heart and never ever turn the game sour by digging into sensitive topics like cheating or something similar. Reserve those topics for serious conversations.
#2 Chore wheel. Weekend household cleaning could be a bummer or could be fun. If you notice that neither of you are looking forward to it, make it exciting by having a chore wheel. Make a spinning wheel or buy one online and then write the basic chores on it like throwing the trash, cleaning the bathroom, mowing the lawn, etc. Each one spins which chores he or she will do for the day.
Whoever finishes first will be the princess or prince of the night and whoever loses will be the slave. The winner can decide what movie to watch or what food to eat once everything’s done. This simple game can turn your weekend rut into something playful, which is what ultimately creates intimacy in long-term partners.
#3 Roll the dice. Buy a pair of dice and get a piece of paper. On your paper, make two columns. On the first column, list down twelve loving commands *tickle, kiss, bite, nibble, sing, etc.* and on the second column, list down places or body parts *bathroom, street, restaurant, cinema, ear, etc.* You each roll the dice twice. The first dice is for the first column, the second dice is for the second column.
For example, if you get nibble on the first column then you get restaurant on the second one, make sure you nibble your partner in the restaurant in the coming week. Now there’s always something to look forward to.
#4 Relationship hangman. This is just like the all too familiar hangman game except that the words to be guessed have something to do with your relationship. When you go to a restaurant and you’re waiting for your order or if you’re on the plane, simply get your pen and paper and start drawing boxes like the wheel of fortune.
If you want your partner to guess Bahamas because that’s where you had your honeymoon, draw seven boxes. Your partner will then try to guess using letters (Does it have an A?) and if he gets it right, you put the letter on the boxes and if your partner is wrong, then you draw a hangman – starting with the head, then the trunk, the arms, etc. When the hangman is formed and your partner still hasn’t guessed the word, he or she loses.
#5 Cook off. Invite friends or family over for a great feast but turn it into a game between you and your dearly beloved. Turn your kitchen into hell by having a cook off. Compete on the main dish, the desserts, the hors d’oeuvres, and even cocktails. Just like the chore wheel above, this adds spice to your daily grind. Let your guests be your jury.
However, if you’re a good cook and your partner obviously is not, make sure you drop a hint to the guests so they at least vote one dish of your partner. You don’t want your sweetheart to feel so low or else they’d lose enthusiasm the next time you suggest a cook off
Games to build intimacy in the bedroom
The best way to become more intimate with your partner in the bedroom is not by having prolonged necking or massages *although those are awesome, too*, it is by having some really engaging foreplay. Engaging is the operative word. You should have a helluva good time to the point that actual sex just becomes the icing on the cake. Here are some of the most entertaining games that could help develop intimacy in couples:
#6 Sexy Truth or Dare. You don’t have to purchase anything for this game. All you need to do is print out truths and dares, roll them, and put them in two jars. Everything you put is sex-related. For the questions, it could be as simple as “What do I do that turns you on?” or as aggressive as “ Do you want to have a threesome?” For the dare, it could be as simple as “give me a lap dance” but we know you’re better than that!
#7 Naked Hide and Seek. The game is as straightforward as the title. When your house is empty, strip your clothes off and go on a naked hide and seek. The endorphin rush can lead to more fulfilling sex. This is a game for children and doing this now that you’re grown-ups can give you a feeling that you’re still young and playful and full of life. Do this especially if your partner is a serious type because it will make him or her more comfortable doing silly things with you.
#8 Blindfold guessing game. Blindfold your partner and let them guess what you put in his or her mouth. It could be fruits, your chin, your elbow, chocolates…anything you can think of. This kind of game builds trust because the blindfolded one is vulnerable and dependent on the one who’s in control. Take turns so both of you will know what it feels like to be vulnerable and in charge of each other.
#9 Staring contest. When was the last time you held a really long stare with your partner? The sexy kind, not the long angry stare you usually give during fights. Staring at another person’s eyes for more than ten seconds creates intimacy. In fact, many yogis recommend this for therapy. They say our eyes are the window to our soul and you will find out just how true that is when you try this game.
Simply sit on the bed naked with your partner and stare at each other without blinking. The one who blinks first has to perform a sexual favor to the winner.
#10 Sexy Twister. Twister was a phenomenal game first released in the 60s but is still available today. It is played using a large mat spread on the floor and a spinning wheel. The mat has circles of different colors where you will mount your hands or legs *left leg blue, right hand yellow*. Play it with your partner naked to turn it into a Kama Sutra game. It becomes sexier if you play with clothes on at first, and then strip piece by piece as you play.
By Rowena Sanchez | Love Panky
Relationship games that build intimacy outside the bedroom
As they say, intimacy happens hours before you enter the bedroom. It’s the playfulness, the true connection of two souls, and the nurturing of each others’ love tanks. Here are some wholesome games you can play with your partner so your relationship will become more intimate and fun.
#1 Twenty questions. This game is classic for a reason, it’s so effective in building intimacy. The game is pretty simple. You and your partner alternately ask each other questions and make sure you both vow to be honest with your answers. Absolutely simple. What makes this useful is that couples can ask each other questions in a playful, non-accusing manner.
Sample questions: “Did you ever fake an orgasm?”, “What’s one secret you haven’t told me?”, “What’s your greatest worry?” Just make sure that you play this with a light heart and never ever turn the game sour by digging into sensitive topics like cheating or something similar. Reserve those topics for serious conversations.
#2 Chore wheel. Weekend household cleaning could be a bummer or could be fun. If you notice that neither of you are looking forward to it, make it exciting by having a chore wheel. Make a spinning wheel or buy one online and then write the basic chores on it like throwing the trash, cleaning the bathroom, mowing the lawn, etc. Each one spins which chores he or she will do for the day.
Whoever finishes first will be the princess or prince of the night and whoever loses will be the slave. The winner can decide what movie to watch or what food to eat once everything’s done. This simple game can turn your weekend rut into something playful, which is what ultimately creates intimacy in long-term partners.
#3 Roll the dice. Buy a pair of dice and get a piece of paper. On your paper, make two columns. On the first column, list down twelve loving commands *tickle, kiss, bite, nibble, sing, etc.* and on the second column, list down places or body parts *bathroom, street, restaurant, cinema, ear, etc.* You each roll the dice twice. The first dice is for the first column, the second dice is for the second column.
For example, if you get nibble on the first column then you get restaurant on the second one, make sure you nibble your partner in the restaurant in the coming week. Now there’s always something to look forward to.
#4 Relationship hangman. This is just like the all too familiar hangman game except that the words to be guessed have something to do with your relationship. When you go to a restaurant and you’re waiting for your order or if you’re on the plane, simply get your pen and paper and start drawing boxes like the wheel of fortune.
If you want your partner to guess Bahamas because that’s where you had your honeymoon, draw seven boxes. Your partner will then try to guess using letters (Does it have an A?) and if he gets it right, you put the letter on the boxes and if your partner is wrong, then you draw a hangman – starting with the head, then the trunk, the arms, etc. When the hangman is formed and your partner still hasn’t guessed the word, he or she loses.
#5 Cook off. Invite friends or family over for a great feast but turn it into a game between you and your dearly beloved. Turn your kitchen into hell by having a cook off. Compete on the main dish, the desserts, the hors d’oeuvres, and even cocktails. Just like the chore wheel above, this adds spice to your daily grind. Let your guests be your jury.
However, if you’re a good cook and your partner obviously is not, make sure you drop a hint to the guests so they at least vote one dish of your partner. You don’t want your sweetheart to feel so low or else they’d lose enthusiasm the next time you suggest a cook off
Games to build intimacy in the bedroom
The best way to become more intimate with your partner in the bedroom is not by having prolonged necking or massages *although those are awesome, too*, it is by having some really engaging foreplay. Engaging is the operative word. You should have a helluva good time to the point that actual sex just becomes the icing on the cake. Here are some of the most entertaining games that could help develop intimacy in couples:
#6 Sexy Truth or Dare. You don’t have to purchase anything for this game. All you need to do is print out truths and dares, roll them, and put them in two jars. Everything you put is sex-related. For the questions, it could be as simple as “What do I do that turns you on?” or as aggressive as “ Do you want to have a threesome?” For the dare, it could be as simple as “give me a lap dance” but we know you’re better than that!
#7 Naked Hide and Seek. The game is as straightforward as the title. When your house is empty, strip your clothes off and go on a naked hide and seek. The endorphin rush can lead to more fulfilling sex. This is a game for children and doing this now that you’re grown-ups can give you a feeling that you’re still young and playful and full of life. Do this especially if your partner is a serious type because it will make him or her more comfortable doing silly things with you.
#8 Blindfold guessing game. Blindfold your partner and let them guess what you put in his or her mouth. It could be fruits, your chin, your elbow, chocolates…anything you can think of. This kind of game builds trust because the blindfolded one is vulnerable and dependent on the one who’s in control. Take turns so both of you will know what it feels like to be vulnerable and in charge of each other.
#9 Staring contest. When was the last time you held a really long stare with your partner? The sexy kind, not the long angry stare you usually give during fights. Staring at another person’s eyes for more than ten seconds creates intimacy. In fact, many yogis recommend this for therapy. They say our eyes are the window to our soul and you will find out just how true that is when you try this game.
Simply sit on the bed naked with your partner and stare at each other without blinking. The one who blinks first has to perform a sexual favor to the winner.
#10 Sexy Twister. Twister was a phenomenal game first released in the 60s but is still available today. It is played using a large mat spread on the floor and a spinning wheel. The mat has circles of different colors where you will mount your hands or legs *left leg blue, right hand yellow*. Play it with your partner naked to turn it into a Kama Sutra game. It becomes sexier if you play with clothes on at first, and then strip piece by piece as you play.
By Rowena Sanchez | Love Panky
