What’s a healthy amount of time you should be spending with your partner? We all know of people who dived head first into a relationship, spending 24/7 with their partner, forgetting all other relationships and friendships. And then there are others who spend just a couple of days together in a few months’ time.
But, where’s the balance? What is a healthy amount of time to spend with your partner? If 100 percent is too much, and 0 percent is too little, what really is the sweet spot?
Striking a balance is much harder than you think. On one hand, people are tempted to spend time with their partners, who go on to become the most important people in their lives. Meanwhile, work and other demands often impose limits on the amount of time couples can actually spend together. dearJulius.com tells you how you can strike that balance.
Don’t Forget the Friendships!
Often, your partner fills up the time you initially used to allot to friends and family. People in relationships often tend to restrict their availability to exiting circles. For example, women tend to spend more and more time with their romantic partners, and at the same time decrease the amount of time spent with their best friends.
Intimacy Overload: When friends complain they never see you anymore, and family wonders where you’ve been, know that it is essentially important to find that balance!
Avoid Over Dependence on Each Other
Many people get dependent on their partners for all their needs; their social life starts revolving around them, their weekends comprise only of their partners and themselves, and their only friend becomes their him/her – this actually becomes a dangerous level of intimacy and results in both partners becoming overly dependent on each other. It also creates over expectations, thereby threatening to destroy the fragile fabric of relationships. Depend on one another but ensure that you maintain your level of independence too.
You and Your Partner Need Time Sans One Another
Time spent alone is only as valid as your other needs. Many people benefit by engaging in activities they love to do by themselves, or with their buddies, away from their partners! Even though the relationship means a lot to you, engaging in a little bit of self-care is equally important.
Keep the Balance
Spending a healthy amount of couple time is essentially about finding a balance in which both partners are happy with the time they spend together, are maintaining hearty friendships and family relationships are progressing towards their professional goals, and giving the relationship a chance to flourish. Needless to say, that’s a lot to getting balance right!
By Shaurya Thakur
