You're dating a new woman,
and you're totally excited about her. Everything's been great: The sex
is off the charts, she wants to watch football games with you on the
weekends, and she'll actually enjoy the game and not say anything
stupid. She’s cool as can be. You know the type. It's almost like
hanging out with your buddies — except she's hot, which makes her far
better than hanging out with your friends.
Her Intolerable Friends
Your girlfriend's friends?
Well, she's got some. Problem is, they’re nothing like her. All of her
friends irritate you, they drive you crazy and you absolutely hate being
around them.
She has one friend who constantly tries to
compete with you for your girl’s attention, and you end up having to
just walk away. She's also got a friend who’s just a bitter pill. She's
always asking you to set her up on a date with one of your friends.
She's constantly complaining about her dating life. When are you going
to introduce her to all your friends? She’s also got the self-absorbed
friend. The one who is pretty attractive, but every time you're sitting
next to her talks your ear off about anything and everything that you're
not interested in. She brags about all the great things she’s done and
all the great places she’s been to this week. Then you try to
contribute, and she doesn’t hear a word you say. She just likes hearing
the sound of her own voice. Your girlfriend's also got the
text-message-crazed friend. The girl who sends her a nonstop series of
text messages from sunrise to midnight. And your new girlfriend feels
the need to text her back because if she doesn't, she is going to feel
neglected.
Do You Tell Her You Hate Her Friends?
This amazing, super-sexy, football-watching woman has the most annoying
group of friends you've ever come across in your entire life — and you
hate them all. What can you do about it? Do you tell her that you
absolutely hate her friends?
Do you tell her that you never want to hang out with her friends again
and that they constantly ruin what could be great moments?
As a
matter of fact, just the other night the chronic-text-messaging friend
texted her four times right in the middle of a hot, passionate kiss. It
broke the moment, she looked down at all the unread messages and texted
back. That started a 15-minute text conversation about something
ridiculous.
So, do you tell her you hate her friends? No, you
can't do that. These are the girls she hangs out with, and it’s not
really any of your business who she likes spending time with. But you do
have to sit through a clear conversation with her and lay out what is
annoying you. You have to tell her that when you're hanging out, you
want to keep the texting-our-friends-thing to a minimum. Tell her, “I'll
make you a deal: I don't text my friends, you don't text your friends.
Let's just hang out and spend time together.”
How To Deal With Her Friends
When you're at a party together, you need to make fun of the situation.
Say, “Hey, babe, don't leave me alone in the corner with Carol, the
chronic complainer.” Make up nicknames for your girlfriend's friends.
Have some fun with it; make sure you can both laugh about it. That way
she knows that even though you can handle yourself, you're not really
into talking to her annoying friends, and she will come to your
protection in a fun way (which you'll need from time to time).
You'll never get rid of her friends. It’s not fair to try to force her
to choose between you and them, and, if anything, it’s a good way to get
you to lose this girl. At the end of the day, her friends will probably
outlast you anyway. No matter how hot you are for this relationship and
how great you think it may be, it will probably end up fizzling out at
some point. Most relationships fizzle out, and until you find the right
one, you've got to learn how to put up with your girlfriend's annoying
friends, because the same thing is probably going to happen with the
next one down the line.
How To Put Up With Her Friends
I know when I'm dating a new woman and her friends are absolutely
annoying, I still try my best to have a fun time with them. As I
suggested before, I come up with nicknames for all of them. “Hey, is
that Tracy the texter right now? Tell her we are about to have some great sex and you will text her right back.”
I
will constantly make nicknames and play with it. As the old saying
goes, if you can beat ’em, join ’em. But the lesson to be learned is
that you've got to take control of the situation.
I was dating a woman several years back, and her friends were some of
the most annoying people I’ve ever met in my life (even more annoying
than the ones that I just described). So when we were all together,
which would eventually happen, I’d sit back, laugh and hang out. Then I
would pull my girlfriend aside and say, “Can you believe what your
friend just said? That was absolutely the most ridiculous thing in the
entire world!” I would find anything funny about them, and I‘d point it
out and talk about it.
But the minute that you tell her that you hate her best friends, that you don't even like to see her friends,
it is going to put a wall between the two of you. The woman you’re with
wants you to love every bit of her, and she wants to be accepted in
every way, shape and form. So you can't tell her that you hate her
friends, but it doesn’t mean you have to pretend to like them. What you
can do is have fun with it. Make the best of the situation you’re in.
Make up fun little nicknames and turn it into a game so these woman do
not drive you crazy.
Remember, you’re most likely going to be gone before her friends are.
