The salient beauty you’ve been chasing from the beginning of semester finally starts responding positively to your advances. You entrap her with your alluring charm and in no time she agrees to be your girlfriend. Two weeks down the line you realize that there still many other suitors after her. You are now probably wondering whether you can handle the stiff competition. Following are 6 tips on how to successfully date an extremely beautiful lady on campus.
1)
Deal with your insecurities
The truth is there will always be guys who are taller, better looking, charming, muscular and loaded than you. That should not get you depressed and scared. She must have found something very attractive in you before agreeing to be your girlfriend. Inquiring about her geographical location every hour, barring her from hanging out with certain friends, snooping on her phone or going temperamental whenever she receives a text from another dude, will only succeed in pushing her away. So deal with your insecurities!
2)
Genuinely appreciate her
If she is looking outstanding that morning let her know how beautiful you find her in that garb. If she makes a nice meal tell her how delicious it is. Don’t make an error of giving her undeserved flatter every minute, like claiming you are so into her new hairstyle when in reality it makes her look like SpongeBob. The base line is to give genuine compliments. When you flatter her unnecessarily it makes you look phony, no girl wants to date a spurious dude!
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Deal with competition ascetically
When you realize there is a guy making passes at your girl don’t go threatening to kick their ass to Lokichogio. Play the bigger man. Calmly let him know she is taken but if he persists, sit back and let him feel like he is winning. Wait for the most opportune time when he is with your girl preferably a public place then go up to them. Scoop your girl off her feet with both hands then kiss her passionately for a minute. When you done lead her away with your arm on her waist without paying any attention to the competitor. Such public humiliation will discourage even the most persistent guy from ever hitting on your girl!
4)
Be your own man
The worst mistake most guys make when they get hitched to a super fine-looking girl is forgetting who you are. They stop hanging out with the boys, put extra effort in their dressing and bend over backwards in and effort to please the lady. Getting into a relationship does not mean you radically change your lifestyle. Have a life of your own, friends, interests and maintain your beliefs. This will allow you to also give her the much space she needs. If you spend every minute of your time with her she will soon tire having you around and think you are too clingy. You can guess what will happen next.
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Support her fully
As a man, the cardinal rule is to speak less and listen more. Listen to her, understand all about her; strengths, weakness, likes and dislikes. Most guys hold this misconception that, satisfying a lady in the sack is all you need to stop her from straying. Remember women are emotional beings; you need to fulfill her emotional needs too.
When she wants to pursue her dreams support her fully. Trying to discourage her from participating in the campus beauty pageant because you are afraid someone might snatch her away may backfire. Once she realizes your insecurities are hampering her dreams then she will definitely walk away.
6)
Be good at something
In order to delight in your girlfriend’s success you also need to find something you are innately good at and pursue it fully. If you are an athlete then train hard and win a medal or two. If you are shrewd entrepreneur then work on your start up and grow it into a business empire. If you are successful in a particular field then her success will not intimidate you in any way.
When your love gets to a rocky patch and you unsuccessfully trying to mend up your relationship, forget her and move. Hesitating to move on just because you are afraid that you may never get such a beauty is ridiculous. As I always tell my friends, if one appealing lady fell for you what will stop you from getting another in future?
By Mark Maina
