Breakups are hard. They’re even harder if you don’t feel the split
was a good idea. If you’re ready to give it another go and want to know
how to get your boyfriend back, there are things you can do
.
Keep in mind that not every relationship is reparable and that
sometimes staying apart is much better for both parties. If your
relationship was truly unhealthy, or if it involved violence or serious
betrayal at the end, you may want to closely examine the idea of trying
to get your boyfriend back.
If you have examined your relationship and feel it’s truly worth
salvaging and making better, there are several tips you may want to try
to get your boyfriend back.
Tip 1 - Explore the reasons for the breakup. If you
want to get your boyfriend back, there will generally be issues with the
relationship that will need to be resolved. Examine where things went
wrong and what can be done to overcome the problem or problems. Remember
that relationships are two-way streets and so are breakups. Chances
are, the “fault” lies with both parties.
Tip 2 – Give him some space. If you really want to
get your boyfriend back after a split, state your desire and then give
him some space. Don’t hound him, send notes, pester or otherwise harass
him. State your case, and be clear about why you think things went wrong
and what your ideas are of how to right those wrongs. He’ll either come
around or he won’t.
Tip 3 – Take care of yourself. Breakups can take
their toll on more than your emotions. Now is not the time to let
yourself or your health go. If you really want to get your boyfriend
back, try to be kind to yourself by eating right, staying in shape and
trying to focus on being kind to yourself. Your boyfriend is likely to
find you more attractive if you put forth the effort to take care of
yourself.
Tip 4 – Stay positive. Use the law of attraction to
your advantage and try to maintain a positive attitude. Even if your
boyfriend hasn’t contacted you back about your request to work things
out, proceed with the belief that the situation will resolve itself in
your favor. Even if you don’t get “him” back, your positive attitude
could bring other good things (and people) into your life.
Tip 5 – Develop your own interests. While you two
are working things out or as you wait for his response, don’t sit around
pining for the phone to ring. Get out and explore your own interests.
Stand on your own as a person. Have fun and truly enjoy yourself. Doing
so can help boost your self-esteem, which will make you a happier
person. Happy, positive people tend to attract positive attention from
others.
Tip 6 - Remain open-minded. If you have stated your
desire to get back together and he’s agreeable to talking, use good
communication skills to try and bridge the gaps between you. Talk out
your problems without letting anger get in the way. Listen to what he
has to say and share your feelings and observations, too.
If you want to get your boyfriend back, be honest, open and positive.
Even if it doesn’t work out quite the way you wanted it to, you may
find yourself happier for making the effort.
