By Brenda Janowitz, Pop Sugar
Well, it happened. You didn't ever think it would, but it did. Your ex is getting married. Before you.
But there's no need to panic! It's so not a big deal. After all,
you're young, you're gorgeous, and you've got plenty of reasons you
should attend that wedding with your head held high.
Why should you listen to me? Well, let's just say I sort of wrote the book about going to an ex's wedding. I'm the author of Scot on the Rocks,
which I just rereleased in time for its 10-year anniversary. Did I
mention I also attended an ex-boyfriend's wedding? I know what I'm
talking about here. Let me break it down for you:
[post_ads]1. You can go to their wedding and show off how fabulous you're doing.
After all, they say that living well is the best revenge. Just
because he broke up with you is no reason that you shouldn't go to his
wedding, dressed to kill, and show your ex (and his idiot friends) that
you are perfectly fine post breakup. In fact, the breakup was actually
good for you!
Oh, wait, did you break up with him and now he's trying to show you
that he's actually the one living well, and as such, he is the one
getting revenge on you? OK, then, let's move on to number two . . .
2. Weddings are a great place to meet someone!
My Aunt Myrna always said that weddings are a great place to meet someone. And my Aunt Myrna would never lie.
Think about it: love is in the air. Literally! Two people just
pronounced their love for each other. Weddings have an all-around
romantic vibe. Couple that with an open bar and slow dancing, and the
wedding has practically done all of the work for you.
But if the thought of going to your ex's wedding makes you want to
cry on my Aunt Myrna's shoulder instead of getting all dolled up, then
let's move on to number three.
3. Weddings give you an excuse to ask a friend on a date!
We all have them. That friend who could be something more. Maybe
they've never made a move on you. Maybe you're scared that making a move
on them will hurt the friendship. Invite a pal with potential to be
your plus one at the wedding! And the best part? There's no pressure at
all. It won't even seem like a date. Unless you want it to, of course.
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4. You're still friends with your ex and you want to celebrate his or her big night.
OK, it happens. It's not an urban legend. Some couples do stay
friends after a breakup. And you wouldn't want to seem petty by refusing
the invite to their wedding. After all, if you really are friends with
your ex, what better way to support them than to be there on their
special day? I mean, let's not be crazy — still get yourself a superhot
dress and have your hair and makeup game on point, but you can look
gorgeous and still be a supportive friend at the same time. Women are
true multitaskers in this way.
5. Weddings are fun and you deserve a night out!
Let's face it: weddings can be a blast. What's wrong with a night of
eating, drinking, and dancing until all hours of the night? (Nothing.
Absolutely nothing!) Weddings are an excuse to get all dressed up and
then party until your feet hurt. So, go! Eat! Drink! Be merry!!
6. Make it all about the girls.
Grab your bestie and make it a girls' night out. Who says your plus
one needs to be a significant other? And who says that you need to find
someone new right after a breakup? All you need is you. You are amazing.
You are strong. You are enough.
Still not convinced? OK, maybe you're right. There is ONE reason why you probably shouldn't go:
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It's over.
You broke up. He's not your boyfriend. He's your ex. That means he's out of your life. You're done. Finished. Finito.
No reason to go to his wedding and pretend that you're totally OK
with the fact that he's getting married before you. Maybe you are. Maybe
you're not. But only you can decide if attending an ex's wedding will
be good for you in the long run or not.
If you truly are friends with your ex, and you think it can be a fun night of celebration, then by all means, go.
But if you're not, then don't push yourself. You have nothing to
prove. To anyone. Not to them, and not even to yourself. Spending a
night pretending you're OK won't be good for you. So, if you're not up
to it, RSVP no, and spend the night instead with some good friends, some
good food, and a lot of laughs.
And maybe even spend the night with that friend who you always
wondered about turning into something more. (But only if you're ready.)
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