By Nina Callaway
Weddings Expert
If you'll be a virgin on your wedding night, you're probably feeling
some apprehension about what will happen on your honeymoon, but there's
truly no need to worry. This advice and honeymoon sex tips will help things go smoothly.
How to Communicate Before the Wedding Night
Ask
your soon-to-be-spouse if he or she is feeling nervous about the
wedding night. Odds are, they're feeling a little apprehension too, and
will be relieved to have the opportunity to talk about it.
Talk
about what your hopes and fears are. If you're nervous because your
partner is more experienced than you, tell them. If you know you want to
prevent pregnancy,
talking about safer sex is essential. You may even want to visit a
counselor or talk about the topic during your pre-wedding counseling.
You
should never feel nervous or embarrassed about bringing up the subject
of sex. Your soon-to-be-spouse is about to become your partner for life,
and you have nothing to worry about.
How to Communicate During Sex
The most
important sex tip for being a great lover is learning how to communicate
in bed. For nervous first timers, it might seem more natural to stay
silent. Dirty talk can be intimidating.
Let
your partner know what feels good and what doesn't, and ask them to do
the same. Don't be afraid to ask them questions like, "Can I try..." or
"Does that feel good?" Knowing what each of you likes and dislikes
ensures a more pleasurable experience.
Will it Be Painful?
When a woman loses her virginity, a little blood and pain is normal. To make things easier and more enjoyable, start with lots of foreplay to get in the mood.
You'll
also want to have a good lubricant. I recommend a brand called Slippery
Stuff because, unlike many lubricants, it's safe to use with latex and
it doesn't have glycerin, which can cause yeast infections. Even if you
use a lubricated condom, extra lube will make it an even better
experience.
Will He Be Able to Maintain an Erection? What Happens if He Can't?
The
pressure of the wedding night can be too much for many men to handle.
If things aren't "working," change up the mood with a little (or a lot
of) foreplay. Kiss and touch each other. Perhaps make a game out of how
many different body parts you can kiss.
Most importantly remember that being intimate
with the person you love isn't just about penetration. There are lots
of ways to make each other feel good that don't require an erection.
Will I Be Any Good? How Can I Wow My New Husband or Wife?
Sex,
like most things, takes practice. You're probably going to be a little
clumsy and feel goofy, and that's perfectly normal. Take the pressure
off by poking fun at yourself and your nerves.
Communication is
key. Understanding what your partner likes, and making sure they know
your preferences too, is vital for not only enjoying the moment, but
improving.
Don't focus on how mind-blowing the feels are (or
aren't), or how this is a monumental moment each of you will cherish and
remember forever. Worrying is a distraction. It will only stress you
out and ultimately take you out of the present. Instead, be gentle with
your partner and focus on how amazing it is to finally be in each
others' arms as a married couple.
Get Confident!
You
should already feel confident knowing your spouse is crazy about you
and thinks you're gorgeous, but confidence is sexy. The more, the
better. Do whatever you have to make yourself feel confident and
beautiful, inside and out. That might mean buying some pretty wedding night lingerie, using low, romantic candlelight, or spending a little extra time pampering yourself before the big day.
For tips on making the sex as amazing as possible, read "10 Sex Tips for Amazing Wedding Night Sex." To make your whole wedding night more meaningful, read "Tips To Make Your Wedding Night Meaningful and Magical."
