We’re guilty of casually tossing around the term #relationshipgoals
without really knowing what’s going on between the couple we’re
labeling. Sure, they may look damn good in that heavily posed and
filtered Instagram shot, but are they truly in a genuinely solid and happy relationship?
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Even if we befriended these people IRL, chances are we’d never know if they’re even capable of maintaining a healthy relationship, so it’s best to gauge the bond between you and your significant other by more realistic standards.
Overall in a healthy relationship, you just *get* one another.
Because of the sense of security you have in this healthy relationship, there are so many minor things that you don’t even bother worrying about. Here are a few:
Where your partner is at all times.
There’s no need for them to give you a detailed itinerary of where
they plan to be every hour on the hour because you guys have this pretty
major thing called trust. You don’t treat your partner’s absence as an
automatic cause for suspicion, which is way less work than having to be
paranoid.
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If they haven’t texted you back right away.
Srsly, who friggin’ cares? Unless it’s an urgent situation (in which case, pick up tha phoooone),
you understand that there’s no cause for concern. They’ll get back to
you when they can. And in the meantime, you take advantage of having space in your relationship without having to ask for it.
Who wins an argument.
If you and your boo share a healthy relationship, your fights are
geared more towards understanding one another and resolving the issue
than about who wins. You know that trying to make sure you’re right
isn’t important in the grand scheme of things.
Exposing your flaws.
Nobody’s perfect, yada, yada, yada — we’ve heard that a zillion times
but letting your guard down in a relationship can still be kind of
daunting. But when you and your partner’s bond is on the healthy end of
the spectrum, letting them know that you’re not actually #flawless isn’t
as intimidating as it sounds.
We second Tiny Buddha‘s sentiment that a strong relationship is built on you and your partner’s ability to accept one another’s flaws.
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Losing it in front of them.
By now, your partner should have already shown you that they’re great
at supporting you through the good and the bad. So if you need to have a
snot-nosed, yelling, ugly-crying fit in front of them, you’re not
worried that they will treat you like a complete weirdo who can’t get a
grip on life.
Crying in front of your significant other
for the first time may feel a little uncomfortable, but if you’re in a
healthy relationship, it should definitely get easier with time.
Having disagreements with them.
If you spend enough time around a person, chances are you’re going to clash over something, whether it involves your partner’s highly annoying habit or the intense debates you had over every single episode of Insecure‘s second season.
But after the dust settles, you both know that having a difference of
opinion isn’t always a negative thing. As long as you can respectfully
agree to disagree, life — and your relationship — will go on.
[post_ads_2]Lurking online or elsewhere.
We totally acknowledge how social media has changed relationship
dynamics. Like, it’s totally important to know if the person you’re
dating is being a troll online or sliding in someone else’s DMs, but if
you have to lurk on every post and snoop to see who they’re following,
these are clear-cut signs that you have major trust issues in your relationship.
When your romantic bond is in tip-top shape, there’s a mutual trust
and respect between the both of you. You’re comfortable in your
relationship and in the fact that your commitment is way too strong for
you to let the small stuff ruin a good thing.
