By Rori Raye
In order to inspire his total devotion, you need to stop using all the wrong ways that most women think work to get love, but really just push men away. These ways prevent men from connecting with you – deeply and emotionally – so your relationships are only temporary or never happen at all.
All they ever lead to are a buddy, a “player” or a man just “passing through” on his way to the “real” love of his life. And you need to stop taking them… right now… if you want to inspire his affection and commitment.
Wrong Road #1: The Logical Road (MIND)
You shine during a discussion and you have a lot in common. You impress a man and make him enjoy your company, but you may feel disappointed to learn that he feels no CHEMISTRY.
That’s because when you try to connect with a man through his mind, he doesn’t FEEL a thing!
Oh, he may “enjoy being with you,” but he just never gets TOUCHED by you in a deep, connected, emotional sense.
He never feels like he’s about to lose control of himself and fall in love.
Wrong Road #2: The Physical Road (BODY)
Despite what a lot of women think, men do not become attached through sex, even if it’s fabulous. We’ve all been sold on the idea that a woman who likes sex and is “good” in bed is ALL IMPORTANT to a man.
And it’s not. It’s just a small part of the whole picture for him.
All it DOES give you is a “sex buddy,” not a partner, not a boyfriend, not a husband. You’ll also end up with a broken heart because you’ll get attached and he won’t want anything “real” with you.
Wrong Road #3: The Spiritual Road (SPIRIT)
I meet many women who value their spiritual beliefs and want to be with a man who SHARES their values and spiritual interest and commitment.
And it’s SO EASY to mistake the friendship that can grow between two people who worship in the same way, who care about the same things, for a passionate, emotional bond.
And yet, all that will get you – at best – is a deep friendship. He’ll tell everyone what a great woman you are, but he won’t be dreaming about you night after night or longing to hold you in his arms.
The Right Way To Inspire His Devotion: Connecting Through His Heart!
In order to connect with a man’s heart so he’ll feel compelled to be with you, worship and adore you the way you deserve, you have to feel YOUR own heart first. Once he feels your heart, he’ll open up his, creating a heart-to-heart connection that begins with expressing your feelings and being your most feminine, authentic self.
Most women buy into the lie that “men don’t like emotions.” But the truth is, a man LOVES emotions. He yearns for a woman who can help him feel his own feelings and therefore allow him to be himself. If you’re not in touch with your feelings, he won’t feel safe expressing his.
The trick is to learn exactly HOW to express your feelings – in words that will draw a man closer in an amazing way. The usual way we express our feelings comes out sounding either stifled, inauthentic or critical to a man, and does nothing to connect with his heart.
If you show him you’re in touch with your heart and express yourself-fully and fearlessly-he will feel safe to be himself around you, too.
Learning how to connect with a man’s heart is much, much easier than all the pretending, managing and analyzing that you’ve been doing to get love and affection.
In fact, love doesn’t have to require “work” at all. It can be absolutely effortless. All it takes are some very simple shifts in your words and body language.
Source : Have The Relationship You Want